Like the Way I Do by Melissa Etheridge is an intense song. She is clearly addressing a past romantic partner who has moved on from her. In the lyrics she is comparing her treatment of the partner with the way that the new romantic interest is treating the now ex-partner.
Ending are bitter events. Even though she was dumped, she claims that she is the better person to be with. Why would Melissa want to be with this person who treated her poorly? Who moved on with another person?
Love or the illusion of love does strange things to people, but makes for good music.
Now I wouldn’t encourage people to torch a relationship just so they can create better music.
Nor would I encourage intentionally causing pain in order to learn a lesson.
When pain arrives, which it will, we just need to know we have the gifts to deal with it.